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How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!) by RomanJones How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!) by RomanJones
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I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.
I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.

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Given 2012-06-09
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Sakanakao Featured By Owner 3 days ago
This is rather wonderful. Thank you.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner 2 days ago  Professional Digital Artist
aw thank you!!
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Nachahmer Featured By Owner Edited Jul 1, 2015
Nifty!  I've shared this with my friends on Facebook (via DA widget, of course).  Unfortunately your links to the PDF book are dead.
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
Yeah, it's available through Kindle and through good old fashioned Paypal transfer.
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LunaSheWolf Featured By Owner May 11, 2015
I love this!
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RomanJones Featured By Owner May 12, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
:D
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LunaSheWolf Featured By Owner May 12, 2015
I want this in a pamphlet X,D
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BiancaPistillo Featured By Owner May 4, 2015
This is SO great. Can I translate it into Italian (my mother language)? My friend and I have a website where we translate webcomics into Italian (www.limeinthecoconut.org). We'd love to host it there - credit to you, of course.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner May 4, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
Absolutely!
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BiancaPistillo Featured By Owner May 19, 2015
It's online! Thank you!
www.limeinthecoconut.org/guida…
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MrDataTheAwesome Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2015  Student Digital Artist
haha "come out!" *hiss* :XD::XD::XD::XD:

my best friend and I are both introverts for the most part (me a lot more so then her) we'll just sit there and read different books in the same room but still enjoy each others company....:XD:

this is awesome 
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Apr 26, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
Isn't it great?
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MrDataTheAwesome Featured By Owner Apr 27, 2015  Student Digital Artist
yes:D:D
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goldbadger Featured By Owner Apr 18, 2015  Student Artist
Thank you much for this, it is excellent!  I now have a better way of explaining introversion.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Apr 20, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
You're welcome! And I'm glad to have helped you out!
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KaizenKitty Featured By Owner Mar 18, 2015  Student Writer
Have to disagree here:  in social interaction it's both give and take. If you're only doing one of those, something is seriously wrong and it's time to re-evaluate your approach to social interaction.
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reznor666 Featured By Owner Edited Jul 22, 2015
Hmm.
Extroverts give energy and take energy AND take pleasure of social interection. (1 give, 2 takes)
Introverts only give energy and take pleasure of social interaction (1 give, 1 take). They only need to take energy by being alone.
So I don't really see your point here, because social interaction is ALWAYS both ways - give and take.

You probably didn't read too carefully and don't know the difference between extroverts, introverts and antisocial people.
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KaizenKitty Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015  Student Writer
What is your definition of extroverts, introverts and antisocial people? I'm curious.
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reznor666 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015
There is no "my definition".
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KaizenKitty Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015  Student Writer
Then what do you mean by those terms? Could you explain them?
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reznor666 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015
Why? Can't you read info about either of those people types by yourself with understanding? :) I have a feeling you didn't even pay much attention to what I've wrote or to that deviation you commented on.
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KaizenKitty Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015  Student Writer
:) If you wanna be like that, ok. Just was hoping for once I could have an intelligent conversation here, guess not.
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reznor666 Featured By Owner Jul 23, 2015
Sorry - I'm an introvert with social phobia. I very rarely have the need to spend energy for discussing about things that have been already discussed :) Maybe some other time.
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:iconharbingerhaven:
Yes, this is me. DO NOT INVADE THE HAMSTER BALL. But I still like hugs.
I've also noticed 3 hours or so is my limit of enjoying social interaction (assuming I'm not already tired). I can do up to about six before I stop being able to be polite. Even with family. The only two people I've ever found who don't drain me, who I can be around (read, in the same house with) for unlimited time are my best friend and brother in law. With everyone else I have to expend energy to keep their social energies from invading. Being out socially is like having to have my shields up all the time. I even think of putting on shoes as putting on social armor.
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celestial-shinigami Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Unfortunately introversion is always so under appreciated. I'm glad there is a guide like this, for both introverts and extroverts to understand. 
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:iconkajininnokonoha:
I love this. Something I wish everyone should know. I saw this on facebook a long while back. Good stuff, RomanJones.
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calwallace2007 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
www.buzzfeed.com/jessicamisene…



I love the cartoon though x
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calwallace2007 Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2015  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Basically, 25. I feel like  a monster.
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Kitsunefireball Featured By Owner Mar 6, 2015  Student General Artist
My teachers dont get this and always try to hug me and shit.


Needless to say I almost always go home with a headache
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Belgianpencil Featured By Owner Mar 5, 2015
Yup, that sounds about right. Everyone around me thinks introvert just means antisocial.
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HockeyWitch Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2015
So true...
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
:)
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HockeyWitch Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2015
I'm an introvert myself XD
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Kissme123lal Featured By Owner Feb 15, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I've never understood what introverts are,
now i get it a little more! :D
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
I'm glad to have helped!
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Kissme123lal Featured By Owner Feb 16, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
:D
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Delanynder Featured By Owner Jan 31, 2015
I came here from "The Biggest Problem In The Universe."
I can't say I'm disappointed.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Feb 2, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
I'm glad! Happy you like it!
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SolarBJF Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2015  Student Digital Artist
Me and my friends, Maddy and Jacky, were having fun with this trying to figure out which we were, introverts or extroverts. Me and Jacky ended up being a bit of both seeing as we don't care for being around other people so much but we feed off other peoples energy. Maddy ended up being a near full introvert. Me and Jacky were having fun with that sucking her energy away though hugs and squishes(I ended up with a head ache later). With this a picture appeared in my mind of Maddy in a solid ball and me and Jacky in kind of holy balls squishing her ball. Shortly after the mental image became a real picture and then became a role play between the three of us. It became our Guide to Understanding Invading an Introvert('s Personal Space).

Sorry for the epicly long message I just felt like telling you my Randomocity.
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HunterZero2 Featured By Owner Jan 13, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
I'm an introverted person for sure.
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Mage2902 Featured By Owner Jan 6, 2015
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Getthegrooveon Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Sounds like the truth to me XD
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MegaLoler Featured By Owner Dec 9, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I don't know if I'm introverted or extroverted.. maybe a bit of both? o-o

I LOVE being around people, and I get sad for a while when I have to leave a group of people.  Sounds extroverted?
Well I'm usually not outgoing around these people at all.. in fact I'm one of the shyest people I have ever seen in my whole life.  I NEVER talk unless spoken to. (but I love talking when I am spoken too!)  Sounds introverted?
Another thing... despite being rediculously quiet and reserved, I have intense desires to befriend everybody I spend even a little bit of time with and I want to be really energetic and outgoing (but I don't because I'm too shy)  Sounds extroverted?
However... I much prefer the idea of being really good friends with a small number of people rather than being okay friends with a huge number of people... Sounds introverted?

Extroverted, introverted, extroverted, introverted... o_o

The only time I don't actually want to be around people is when I'm super busy with a project that's sucking away all of my attention span, in which case it's just because I'm busy.  That or the people are mean... but I seriously like almost anybody!
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GenericSorcerer Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2015  New Deviant
That sounds familiar. Could be you are an INFJ or an INFP type. It's Myers-Briggs type evaluator, a psychology tool. You could use it to self assess, or take the test if you like. There are several types that can experience Introversion at some times, and extroversion at others; usually one of these are dominant, and in you it seems to be the Introverted Function that is dominant based on how I read what you said. Please do note that I am not a trained psychologist; this is publicly available information that I have interpreted myself. The links I provide below contain my source materials. These contain information on more than just Introversion versus Extraversion, and could help you understand a little better how you can seem to be both - assuming you don't already know by now, as your post was last year.

As an INFJ myself, I can tell you that despite being very introverted, people who do not know me well believe me to be an extrovert. I talk animatedly when a conversation interests me, and I am expressive and speak with my hands at all times. For some reason, people find me very approachable. Because so many people want to interact with me and I am so friendly as an introvert, I find myself riding the edge of my comfort zone fairly regularly, and have to shut people out for a while. My close friends understand this by now, but other friends can be hurt or confused when I do this. I usually have to explain, and the type indicator has been a great tool for that.

Here, some links. perhaps this can help you. 16personalities goes in depth in the practical applications of the types, focusing on general traits, relationships (friendly and romantic), and work/careers.

Link to the test on 16personalities:
16personalities.com/free-personality-test

The Personality Portraits site is more focused and concise, and also offers a bit of the science of the psychology behind. I recommend checking out both, but

Link to the list of types on Personality Portraits:
personalitypage.com/html/portraits.html

Both links are incomplete and need Http://www added to the front because Deviant Art thinks my post is spam if I put in complete links.
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Sketch55 Featured By Owner Dec 29, 2014
If you are wondering if you are an introvert or extrovert (and no offence to RomanJones but there was something that was not mentioned) there is no such thing as a pure introvert or extrovert.  We like to put people into categories to try to figure each other out- if their shy or out going.  But their are different degrees of these categories, two people can be introverts but one could be an extreme introvert and the other can be a slight introvert; and I can say this because I am a border line extreme introvert.

Also it is possible to change the degree and it is possible to switch between introvert and extrovert; people can change, without a traumatic event in there life.  There are people that can be called introverts but talk to huge crowds of people for a living.  In short form one or two matching/conflicting characteristics do not define a persons character. 
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MegaLoler Featured By Owner Jan 29, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Thank you for the explaination!!
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Sketch55 Featured By Owner Feb 10, 2015
No problem, I'm glad I did not ramble and you liked what I said.
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Crimson-Leviathan Featured By Owner Dec 5, 2014  Hobbyist Writer
This is beautiful piece of work you have made and explains introverts (me) very accurately. Thank you for this!

Now for me to never show this to others..
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Dec 7, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
You're welcome! And thank you!!
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ShadowDancerBrony Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2014
Beautifully explained.
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