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How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!) by RomanJones How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!) by RomanJones
I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.
I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.

German translation: at-msupload.deviantart.com/art…

Chinese translation: www.guokr.com/post/411816/

Polish translation: imageshack.us/a/img827/110/int…

Print for sale: romanjones.deviantart.com/art/…

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Given 2012-06-09
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StarKite1 Featured By Owner Apr 10, 2017  Student Traditional Artist
Very amazing. I´m an introverted person, too and I often have the feeling that people think I´m carzy because I like to be alone...
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TwilightHomunculus Featured By Owner Mar 27, 2017  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Aw man I stumble upon this everywhere like from other sites, sometimes cropped in a worse resolution, maybe meme-afied and I always find it funny because like,"I know who did this" and I find all of my stuff through Pinterest, so like repin it and like add in the description "repinning because Roman is one if the coolest" or something xD
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:iconamagydragon25:
i'm an usually introverted person too, and i want to thank you for this amazing comic :)
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2017  Professional Digital Artist
Thanks for the comment!
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:iconamagydragon25:
AmagyDragon25 Featured By Owner Jan 24, 2017
:3
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xanatose Featured By Owner Sep 6, 2016
Just an idea. Instead of unstructured interaction (aka small talk). Try structured interaction, like playing a cooperative game or watching a movie. Doing a project together might also work.

That way the introvert does not enter the overthinking phase (which is what draw the energy).  

And the extrovert does not enter the "what is wrong" phase which happen when they do not receive the expected input.

With structure everyone knows what to do and how to behave in the situation. No worries of being overwhelming or underwhelming. Eventually both get to know each other, so interaction becomes natural. 
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HylianEspeon Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2016
This is me on so many levels. Everyone should read this. Nobody understands... it can really break a person... :(
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GummyBear30 Featured By Owner Aug 12, 2016
Holy shit. Thank you!! Someone actually gets it! :heart: :dummy:
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Xanderthewizard Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2016
A POLISH TRANSLATION??????????? THANK THE GODS THAT NEVER WERE! I CAN SHOW THIS TO MY POLISH GRANDMOTHER AND SHE WON'T HAVE AN ISSUE READING IT! YOU ARE A SAINT! 






(if god existed, just an atheist and all. not TRYING TO BE A HATER)Stare 
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Xanderthewizard Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2016
NNNNNNNNNNNNNNNOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! IT DOESN'T WORK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! WHERE IS THIS POLISH TRANSLATION!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I NEED THIS CAUSE MY EXTROVERTED POLISH GRANDMOTHER IS DRIVING ME MAD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! frustrated 




PLEASE! IF SOMEONE CAN HELP ME WITH THAT! SEND THIS POLISH TRANSLATION TO xanderthewizard61@gmail.com YOU WILL SAVE ME A LOT OF TROUBLE IF I CAN DRIVE THIS INTO MY GRANDMOTHER'S THICK CATHOLIC SKULL.
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Xanderthewizard Featured By Owner Jul 28, 2016
once again, not trying to be a hater, just an atheist and she keeps trying to "save my soul" and bullshit like that. pisses me off. i don't try to convince her that god ain't real, but she keeps trying to get me to think that ass is. sure i acknowledge Jesus as a person who existed, but the bible wasn't written until a few centuries AFTER that guy was executed by the Romans. so that whole "resurrected from the dead three days later" schpeal can be debated. but i admit he was a good hobo (yes Jesus was a vagrant). one who spoke to the hearts of the people he met, yes, but he was human and nothing more. i just hate it when people force on to others things like Religion or ideologies, as its the source of a lot of wars and killed millions over the centuries. millions have died in the name of "god". thousands have died in the name of "freedom" millions still have died in the name of "PROGRESS" of all things. it pisses me off how pathetic we humans can be, killing each other for things that are, as far as the universe and everything else is concerned, bullshit. it makes me embarrassed to be human. 
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Platypusofdoom Featured By Owner Jul 10, 2016  Student Traditional Artist
I need to go show this to everyone I know. And after that I need to sit in my room with the lights off for about 16 hours.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Jul 16, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Haha
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AaronicWorksInc Featured By Owner Jun 23, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
I wish people around me would get this... but instead they don't give a flyin' fuck about it, and treat me like an antisocial a-hole >:(
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IDunnoM8 Featured By Owner Jul 3, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
That's because from the outside it looks EXACTLY THE SAME.
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LiamIsABrain Featured By Owner May 9, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
This feels... racist.
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner May 10, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Triggered Carmella Triggered Carmella Triggered Carmella Triggered Carmella 
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LiamIsABrain Featured By Owner May 10, 2016  Hobbyist General Artist
I was joking, mate.
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AquariusKnight1990 Featured By Owner Apr 19, 2016  Professional Filmographer
That's great, excellent job!
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Apr 22, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you!
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N0B0DY-Is-Me Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2016
Great guide. Just a heads-up though: The PDF links are broken.
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Apr 12, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Thanks!
The PDFs are broken because I had to update it a bunch and then it wouldn't upload because of a Mac to PC error and it was all just a big mess. 
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CaldoRosa Featured By Owner Apr 2, 2016  Hobbyist Artist
Excellent
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Dragonfire546 Featured By Owner Mar 25, 2016  Student General Artist
This makes sense(i'm introverted), i like it :)
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Vertecks Featured By Owner Mar 12, 2016  Student General Artist
...What can i say that nobody else has?

-Relatable
-True
-Beautiful
-Humanitarian
-A Bajillion common compliments
-Cute
-Funny
-Et cētera

Nope, i've run out.
Congratulations anyway!
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Mar 13, 2016  Professional Digital Artist
Thank you :)
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InactiveProfile Featured By Owner Mar 7, 2016  Hobbyist Photographer
The Polish translation version had a Ninja404 error - This would be far better quality if it was saved as a PNG because that file format is best for several of the same color and a JPEG is best for when there's several ten-thousand colors up to and beyond the maximum for the sRGB color profile which is 256 × 256 ×256 = 16,777,216 colors. One example is an image I just had open in Photoshop CC and with "Save for Web" as a PNG 24 that was 87.83 KB and is lossless, but with the maximum for a JPEG it is 174.5 KB; However, an image that was originally a JPEG is 1.20 MB, but saved as a PNG it is 5.08 MB...
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benettokimo Featured By Owner Mar 1, 2016   Filmographer
These are so true. Glad that there are people who feel the same way as I do about myself.
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NyanNyanDerp Featured By Owner Feb 19, 2016  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Well I guess my friend was right. Only, I'm worried that she's gonna keep being an introvert cause in my school, it's really hard to make friends, unless if they're boys or if you're a socialite and/or their friends. And as much as I don't understand her even if she's my best friend, this really help me alot to respect all introverts.
I hope this will make me talk less to her whenever she's uncomfortable, being a chatterbox myself XD
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snark71 Featured By Owner Dec 19, 2015
As an introvert it was this strip (which an extrovert friend gave me) that made me realise why it was so tiring being around other people even though I liked it.  

It did more than that though, it showed me why it what it meant to her when I did go out and do things with her, the things that made her energized.  She might not say it, but she understood what it took out of me and I understood she wasn't just wanting to be around other people but needed it as much as I needed the quiet times together.

So thankyou Roman for a perfect visualisation for me of me, but also for helping me see what my extroverts need.  This for me is my guide to how to live with extroverts and what I need to give to those (of that weird bunch ;-))  I love.
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DaemonCorps Featured By Owner Dec 12, 2015  Hobbyist
Stumbled into this back in 2013, but still love going back and referencing it for my more extroverted friends. Thanks for making this!
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Dec 13, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
You're welcome! And thanks for the comment!
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Riviellan Featured By Owner Nov 22, 2015  Hobbyist Writer
Quen is so cute in the ball...
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Nov 23, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
He sure is :)
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MandiPope Featured By Owner Oct 25, 2015  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I hugged my introvert!  Intros rule.   :)

My introvert boyfriend Puppetcancer introduced me to this little how-to guide on the care and management of an introvert.  I laughed...  but I used the information, or try to, in order not to overwhelm him and the other intros in my life.


Great deviation.  I absolutely loved it. 

Mandi The Extrovert  (can ya tell?)  :)
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gohlanblack Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
Oh my goodness; this is beautiful!! 
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:iconromanjones:
RomanJones Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
Wanna know what's beautiful?
Your avatar is beautiful!
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gohlanblack Featured By Owner Oct 18, 2015  Hobbyist General Artist
ahahah thanks! ^w^
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NonieR Featured By Owner Oct 5, 2015
I love this - I've never thought about how much being introverted is like being a cat, but we do like the quiet acknowledgement of our mutual presence rather than sudden squeals and grabby hands and all. Sitting next to someone and maybe purring slightly IS friendship.

I and my ex (still a good friend) used to worry waiters in restaurants because we'd happily go out together for good food and then sit there reading our different books in amicable silence

Unfortunately, at some point in my middle years I've ended up a nervously compulsive talker instead, which means I'm just more acutely aware of how MUCH I'm getting on other introverts' nerves.

I've always loved sf conventions--not the big "Meet the Actor and Director" bashes, just hearing authors talk about writing and all, and being in the company of other introverts and oddballs who like to talk about ideas--but conventions have become an ordeal in self-hatred because I can no longer make myself SHUT UP--partly as a verbal self-defence but also because there are neat ideas I want to share with other introverts but I don't have telepathy, so I tend to spend half the con just driving myself nuts annoying people.

One therapist did point out that my existence DOES do me more good than it does other people harm, which should be obvious, but I miss the days when I could be amicably silent more often.

Self-defensive silence can still be friendly, but self-defensive chatter...urgh!
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chendeshen Featured By Owner Sep 12, 2015  Professional Interface Designer
exactly
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Sakanakao Featured By Owner Aug 28, 2015
This is rather wonderful. Thank you.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Aug 29, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
aw thank you!!
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Nachahmer Featured By Owner Edited Jul 1, 2015
Nifty!  I've shared this with my friends on Facebook (via DA widget, of course).  Unfortunately your links to the PDF book are dead.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Jul 1, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
Yeah, it's available through Kindle and through good old fashioned Paypal transfer.
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LunaSheWolf Featured By Owner May 11, 2015
I love this!
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RomanJones Featured By Owner May 12, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
:D
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LunaSheWolf Featured By Owner May 12, 2015
I want this in a pamphlet X,D
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BiancaPistillo Featured By Owner May 4, 2015
This is SO great. Can I translate it into Italian (my mother language)? My friend and I have a website where we translate webcomics into Italian (www.limeinthecoconut.org). We'd love to host it there - credit to you, of course.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner May 4, 2015  Professional Digital Artist
Absolutely!
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