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I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.
I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.
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I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.
I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.
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my best friend and I are both introverts for the most part (me a lot more so then her) we'll just sit there and read different books in the same room but still enjoy each others company....
this is awesome
I've also noticed 3 hours or so is my limit of enjoying social interaction (assuming I'm not already tired). I can do up to about six before I stop being able to be polite. Even with family. The only two people I've ever found who don't drain me, who I can be around (read, in the same house with) for unlimited time are my best friend and brother in law. With everyone else I have to expend energy to keep their social energies from invading. Being out socially is like having to have my shields up all the time. I even think of putting on shoes as putting on social armor.
I love the cartoon though x
Needless to say I almost always go home with a headache
now i get it a little more!
I can't say I'm disappointed.
UnderstandingInvading an Introvert('s Personal Space).Sorry for the epicly long message I just felt like telling you my Randomocity.
I LOVE being around people, and I get sad for a while when I have to leave a group of people. Sounds extroverted?
Well I'm usually not outgoing around these people at all.. in fact I'm one of the shyest people I have ever seen in my whole life. I NEVER talk unless spoken to. (but I love talking when I am spoken too!) Sounds introverted?
Another thing... despite being rediculously quiet and reserved, I have intense desires to befriend everybody I spend even a little bit of time with and I want to be really energetic and outgoing (but I don't because I'm too shy) Sounds extroverted?
However... I much prefer the idea of being really good friends with a small number of people rather than being okay friends with a huge number of people... Sounds introverted?
Extroverted, introverted, extroverted, introverted... o_o
The only time I don't actually want to be around people is when I'm super busy with a project that's sucking away all of my attention span, in which case it's just because I'm busy. That or the people are mean... but I seriously like almost anybody!
Also it is possible to change the degree and it is possible to switch between introvert and extrovert; people can change, without a traumatic event in there life. There are people that can be called introverts but talk to huge crowds of people for a living. In short form one or two matching/conflicting characteristics do not define a persons character.
Now for me to never show this to others..
Me = Extrovert
Him = Introvert
So that you!
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If good intentions covered everything, then I suppose one could say the most offensive shit imagineable after "No offence, but..." and get way with it. We all know that is not true.
"Rules are already set" - which rules? There isn't any reason to believe at all that there is a certain set of "rules" to life. Quite the contrary. I hope you're not trying to explain the world with religion just now and I am just misunderstanding the implication of that phrase.
Actually, more often than not people are unaware of underlying emotions. It's part of the reason why their own subconscious is near impossible for someone to figure out.
In other words: never ever are we truly aware of our emotions, their sources and meanings.
Also, for a very good reason one says that offence is taken, not given. Everyone defines offence differently, making it completely impossible to create a rudimentary guideline of what is offensive and what isn't. What may be "the most offensive shit imagineable" to someone doesn't even brush against someone else. Imagine two people singing and you tell them they suck at it. Who knows if they are aware of this and just sing for the heck of it, if they're learning or not.
Implying someone is deliberately offensive is half a travesty. Unless you have a very good reason to believe it (e.g. the person is well aware you take offence to that kind of statement). It basically is the difference between deduction and induction.
I used to get what I can only really describe as anxiety attacks back when I worked on checkouts and I could never properly articulate why I got them when I was younger. The best way I could put it was that I was afraid of crowds; too many people making me feel claustrophobic. That was never quite right as although I was interacting with a lot of people, it was spread out over several hours. Your comic is probably the best explanation of what I was going through: too many people breaching my hamster ball and making off with my energy. So thanks for that.
Luckily I work on a quieter department now so I don't have my "attacks" any more but the comic still remains an apt description.