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How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!) by RomanJones How to Live with Introverts (PDF available!) by RomanJones

I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.
I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.

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Black-Angel-Dan Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2014  Student Writer
Kant would strongly disagree, especially with that last sentence.
TheAntsaBoy94 Featured By Owner Nov 30, 2014  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
The only thing we always know better than others is the exact magnitude of our feelings at any given moment. We still need to actually figure out its meaning and origins, just like any outsider (i.e. anyone who isn't you) would. This is because humans did not create themselves; the rules are already set, we can only choose our playstyle.

If good intentions covered everything, then I suppose one could say the most offensive shit imagineable after "No offence, but..." and get way with it. We all know that is not true.
Black-Angel-Dan Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2014  Student Writer
Legal institutions to a large degree are founded upon Kantarian principles, though, so that makes this quite funny. But then again, even the state agrees you shouldn't help a robber though it holds truth as an absolute.

"Rules are already set" - which rules? There isn't any reason to believe at all that there is a certain set of "rules" to life. Quite the contrary. I hope you're not trying to explain the world with religion just now and I am just misunderstanding the implication of that phrase.

Actually, more often than not people are unaware of underlying emotions. It's part of the reason why their own subconscious is near impossible for someone to figure out.
In other words: never ever are we truly aware of our emotions, their sources and meanings.

Also, for a very good reason one says that offence is taken, not given. Everyone defines offence differently, making it completely impossible to create a rudimentary guideline of what is offensive and what isn't. What may be "the most offensive shit imagineable" to someone doesn't even brush against someone else. Imagine two people singing and you tell them they suck at it. Who knows if they are aware of this and just sing for the heck of it, if they're learning or not.

Implying someone is deliberately offensive is half a travesty. Unless you have a very good reason to believe it (e.g. the person is well aware you take offence to that kind of statement). It basically is the difference between deduction and induction.
Psi-Baka-Onna Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm an introvert that works in retail. Not sure how that happened but there you go.

I used to get what I can only really describe as anxiety attacks back when I worked on checkouts and I could never properly articulate why I got them when I was younger. The best way I could put it was that I was afraid of crowds; too many people making me feel claustrophobic. That was never quite right as although I was interacting with a lot of people, it was spread out over several hours. Your comic is probably the best explanation of what I was going through: too many people breaching my hamster ball and making off with my energy. So thanks for that.

Luckily I work on a quieter department now so I don't have my "attacks" any more but the comic still remains an apt description.
Oddball-Dragonfly Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Student General Artist
If you're still in retail while Black Friday is goin on, you're gonna have a bad time (unless you take a sick day)
Psi-Baka-Onna Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Nah, I live in England and work in a supermarket on the deli counter. The rush isn't quite the same. It'll get hectic Christmas week  when everyone wants their party nibbles but I should avoid most of the Black Friday rush.
Oddball-Dragonfly Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Student General Artist
Ahh... Sorry, in the US when people say "retail" we usually think "clothes department" or something in that general area. ^^"
Psi-Baka-Onna Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No worries, it's an easy mistake to make. Retail basically just means "selling stuff" after all.
DemonFoxProductions Featured By Owner Nov 27, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
with this comic... I found out that I am an introverted person...

I HATE parties...
I LOVE having my alone time...
I LOVE it when I'm alone at home...
I LOVE doing my own art.

I also tend to get very sweaty when among other people...

I do like going out into the cities...
I do like shopping for things like video games and art supplies...
and music shops...
and I loved Manchester MCM.

but most of the time I just spend walking about wanting to buy stuff...
not much social stuff going on there...
Murachacha Featured By Owner Dec 1, 2014  Hobbyist Photographer
You are probably just a person who "hates" socializing with people you don't know, and that's perfectly ok :)

The fact that you love doing your own art, having no problem going to the city ect. speaks more for a completely healthy mindset of booth, intro- and extroverted features.
While there is no such thing as a TRUE introvert or a TRUE extrovert, because this is highly situational, you might lean more towards a perceiving than acting character.
It's not rare that people mix these with intro- or extroverted. One is a shifting state your brain is in, the other is something that defines you as a person.

From the way you wrote, it seems you are not very happy with your current character. I hope I'm misinterpreting things. Otherwise, I hope you won't stress yourself about stupid definitions like intro- or extrovert.
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