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I thought a lot of folks out there could benefit from learning how to with introverted people.
I drove my ex crazy by being introverted. He thought that I was being "distant" and "purposely ignoring him as part of a passive-aggressive power play". Here I was just enjoying his company without talking.

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love3509 Featured By Owner 11 hours ago  New member
What I that I now know I'm not one of a few. There are so many amazing introverts out there ^.^ This comic is amazingly acurate and...just amazing! To see people and knowing their introverts is BEAUTIFUL! xD
AmberwingKnight Featured By Owner 12 hours ago  New member Hobbyist Traditional Artist
Hahahaha... nailed it to a T!

I'm sharing this ... :)
TheAntsaBoy94 Featured By Owner 22 hours ago  Hobbyist Traditional Artist
To be exact, it is not up to person themselves to determine whatever or not their silent should be taken as an insult. Good intentions doesn't cover everything.
Psi-Baka-Onna Featured By Owner 1 day ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I'm an introvert that works in retail. Not sure how that happened but there you go.

I used to get what I can only really describe as anxiety attacks back when I worked on checkouts and I could never properly articulate why I got them when I was younger. The best way I could put it was that I was afraid of crowds; too many people making me feel claustrophobic. That was never quite right as although I was interacting with a lot of people, it was spread out over several hours. Your comic is probably the best explanation of what I was going through: too many people breaching my hamster ball and making off with my energy. So thanks for that.

Luckily I work on a quieter department now so I don't have my "attacks" any more but the comic still remains an apt description.
Oddball-Dragonfly Featured By Owner 1 day ago  New member Student General Artist
If you're still in retail while Black Friday is goin on, you're gonna have a bad time (unless you take a sick day)
Psi-Baka-Onna Featured By Owner 1 day ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Nah, I live in England and work in a supermarket on the deli counter. The rush isn't quite the same. It'll get hectic Christmas week  when everyone wants their party nibbles but I should avoid most of the Black Friday rush.
Oddball-Dragonfly Featured By Owner 1 day ago  New member Student General Artist
Ahh... Sorry, in the US when people say "retail" we usually think "clothes department" or something in that general area. ^^"
Psi-Baka-Onna Featured By Owner 23 hours ago  Hobbyist Digital Artist
No worries, it's an easy mistake to make. Retail basically just means "selling stuff" after all.
DemonFoxProductions Featured By Owner 1 day ago  Hobbyist General Artist
with this comic... I found out that I am an introverted person...

I HATE parties...
I LOVE having my alone time...
I LOVE it when I'm alone at home...
I LOVE doing my own art.

I also tend to get very sweaty when among other people...

I do like going out into the cities...
I do like shopping for things like video games and art supplies...
and music shops...
and I loved Manchester MCM.

but most of the time I just spend walking about wanting to buy stuff...
not much social stuff going on there...
Murachacha Featured By Owner 1 day ago  Hobbyist Photographer
No offence intended, but i'm tired of this misinterpretation of the terms intro- and extrovert and labels in general...

See, the thing is, from a psychological standpoint, there really really really is no such thing as a true intro or extrovert.
But let me explain.

How you react to something, is highly situational. You think you have a fixed character, but really it is more fluctuating than you would think. Be it with friends, at work, in different social situations, you have a different characteristics.
There are hundreds and thousands of psychological studies, with millions of different character-types to "choose from". Being introverted is a mental state you set yourself in when reading, studying, watching a movie, writing and so on, its also called self reflection, and every human being should be capable of it (unlike some who aren't, and they need help). And you act extroverted during interaction with others, team sports, collaborative effort, speaking and even while creating art! Booth sides are wonderful to have. You might tend to lean more towards one side, and consider yourself to be an introvert, but that's more like your most used character, not a permanent.

Funny thing is, you can even measure this trough brainwaves. Your brain produces brainwaves or to use a more professional term, neural oscillation. It reaches from 1 - 70Hz and is linked directly to your consciousness. There are delta (1-4Hz), theta (4-8Hz), beta (13-30Hz) and gamma (30-70Hz) frequencies. Most of these frequencies are active together. Your brain most likely will right now produce low beta, high theta and low delta waves, unlike you are about to sleep (hopefully not because you are bored by my comment) then it's more composed of delta and theta waves and nearly non by beta. The more alerted you are, the more the composition is dominated by gamma (That's not entirely true, but to be honest, I could write a novel about this :P). How is this related to being introvert you may ask. Well, there are people who produce more theta waves while resting, these people are more thoughtful and reflective, but they also thrift easily into daydreams and lose focus. Then, there are people who produce more beta and gamma waves, these are constantly alert, and while they don't feed their brains with as much information while idling and generally are easily distracted, they can react to sudden situations much more spontaneous. Perfectly, you would have something between the two. Your brainwaves always fluctuate, tending more to gamma while speaking at conferences or doing sports, and falling back to delta, the more chill you are. There are like 200 different combinations of brain-states, being intro- or extrovert is highly dependent on them.

Let's step aside from the fact that your character is not fixed. There is this believe, that only introverts have this system where they spend energy in social situations, and fill them back up when they are alone for themselves.
This is particularly true, but it is this way in every human being. Not only just humans, but with primates and more intelligent mammals too. Everyone gets tired and drained at some point, and while it looks like some people get energy from going to parties, it's not bound to being extrovert. They do something they like, and therefore get a push. If socializing is what you need to get going on, then you are in fact more tending to act extrovert more often, but in reality, even these people get most of their energy by resting. Even the most extrovert archetype has to be alone for some time to feel good, and in an opposite, even the most introvert person needs social contact once in a while. And this socializing is not draining energy because you are introvert, it's draining energy because you generally don't like socializing that much.
I love socializing and feel rejuvenated afterwards, but talking in front of huge groups drains me because I don't like it. I love reading and get energy by doing so, but I hate reading blogs, because I consider most of them plain boring, and it drains me therefore.

While I appreciate this artist and his efforts, it is unique to him. That's just how one person works, not every "introvert". I would consider myself to be more often intro, than extroverted, but I'm also a functioning human being, and generally do not hiss at others for no good reason :)

This is a big part of my studies, and I hope I could interest some of you in it.
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