I read an article here: edition.cnn.com/2014/01/15/liv…
giving advice to cispeople - don't ask these questions to transpeople and why.
I'm really surprised that cispeople find it okay to ask and say incredibly ugly, demeaning things to transpeople - questions they would NEVER ask another cisperson. They honestly don't see a problem with it and I think it's about a lack of education about the subject paired with a general feeling that since these questions wouldn't hurt THEM, why should they hurt US?
The problem with the article is that cispeople would never read this. This is what journalists call an "ugly baby story" - one where only people directly involved will care about it.
What we instead need is a series of good answers transpeople can use to respond to shitty questions that we will be (and have been) asked.
1. "You look so real, I never would have known!"
Thanks, you too!
2. "What do you do with your partner?"
What do you do with yours?
We morph into raccoons and dig around in garbage.
3. "I though you were going to be scary, but you're so polite and normal!"
I generally have a fear of straight cis people, since you're the ones who try to kill people like me.
4. "I don't care; you'll always be a girl/boy to me."
And you'll always be a high schooler.
5. "Aren't you afraid of getting beaten up?"
Why yes, I am in constant danger of violence. Thank you for reminding me.
6. "Meet my friend; he's/she's transgender, too!"
I have a cis friend I'd like you to meet.
7. "When did you realize you were gay/lesbian?"
Polite: Sexuality and gender identity are not the same thing.
Rude: When did you realize you were straight/cis?
8. "Any question about your genitals."
That's waaaaaaay too personal of a question
Do you always ask people about their genitals?
You tell me about your genitals first.
How old are you/how much do you weigh?
Got any other good responses? Put them in the comments!