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The man can present difficult, cringe-inducing subjects (racism, bad parenting, or in this case, homophobia) and talk about it with not only healthy, sensible maturity, but with the kind of rough humor that lets you know it's good to have a thick skin.

Talking about touchy, potentially hurtful things is extremely important, but you need to know how to do it.

If you try to treat people like delicate snowflakes and use special words like "cis" (a term that I, as a transman, hate with a passion), it makes people feel entitled to go into rage fits saying "This offends me, you cisgendered bastard!!"

Wow. Great for you. You can't control your feelings and demand that the rest of the world do it for you. Go fuck yourself.

That's why I love Louis CK so much. He supports equal rights for women, racial minorities, and the LGBT crowd, but he insists that we don't take our problems so seriously that it makes us into shrinking violets. We have to have spines. We have to be able to not cry at the drop of the word "cunt" or "fag" or "tranny".

Check out this video written by Louis on his tv series (language is NWS, obviously):



Here we have a group of guys, all close friends, talking like guys do about homosexuality from their one gay friend (Does the idea of sex with women gross you out? Does it hurt you when the supportive Louis says 'fag' on stage?). He's no weakling - he can whip out the dirty jokes like any of them and never once shows an ounce of self-pity.

The one homophobe in the group isn't nearly the strawman that most people would write him to be. He plays devil's advocate and makes the exact same argument that most homophobes make - "What you do disgusts me".

Watch how Rick handles how people talk to him. He's confident, articulated, drops plenty of jokes that make everyone laugh, throws the homophobes slights back in his face in a funny manner, and calls them out later on their ignorance and they, in turn, react like mature adults.

We need more discussion like this.

BONUS VID:

Louis and his daughter Jane meet a neighbor and share a moment of unexpected beauty:
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AntaresDrake Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
I do not share your feelings on the word cis, yet I do share some of your opinions. People always say  we must watch we say, and yet; they never say we must watch what we do. One person nonbinary person in Tumblr talked about their father. The man used frequently words like "fairy", "queer", "faggot", but he was very respectful towards LGBTQIA people. Not once did he do them harm. Never. But a great part from that community (to which I belong) would crucify him in a hearbeat merely because of his use of  those words; without giving him a chance to show them how he is. 

I understand why some people find those words upsetting, and I respect that, but as Winston Churchill said "you will never get far in life if you stop to throw rocks at every dog who barks at you". You have to learn to choose your battles because you only have a given amount of energy to spend per day. Use it wisely.

I used to cringe when people called me names. It still happens, but the more I grow the more I reach a state in which what people say cannot hurt me anymore. I´ve heard it all before. I prefer to remain indiferent to such things, it´s the best way I have found to keep my sanity. People are welcome to insult me all the they want, but the moment they insult someone I love is the moment they lose their teeth.
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BloodyWilliam Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
yeah, people on BOTH sides really need to be able to talk and listen. so many homophobes et al. too often think gay sex is gross and just don't even want to talk about it. don't even address it. if we don't say it and pretend it's not there then it will go away, right? and yeah, too many of the "victims" (quotes because i couldn't think of a better word, so not sure if i'm using the correct one here) (re: gays, minorities, handicapped, et al.) get too easily offended at nearly EVERYTHING these days. they play the persecution complex at the drop of a hat. have you seen that one Key and Peele bit? NSFW but awesome: www.youtube.com/watch?v=e3h6es… both sides need to take the cotton out of their ears and just LISTEN to each other about what each others' problems really are. how is anything going to get sorted if we don't?
kind of a rant, and i'm not good with words, so i don't know if i got my point across.
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Hallowedlady Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014
A thick skin is something everyone needs. And as someone who is pretty anti-bulling and spent a good amount of time dealing with annoying twits at school, I can safely say that special snowflake-ism makes things worse. 
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Smoludozerka Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
In Polish cis means yew plant. That's why when someone uses cis angrily me and my friends think of evil, evil trees.

I generally dislike today's overuse of labels for fucking everything. It's like people don't want to talk with others about what they are like, who they like, how they experience love, but hide behind those labels and wear them in the open and expect everyone to know everything just from looking at those labels-badges. Also, I think this kind of newspeech sounds pretentious. Sure, we need new words, but they should be reasonably sparse and intuitive. I understand people might want different pronouns but heck, make them possible to pronounce and distinguish in speech :I
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floridapanther28 Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist General Artist
Out of curiosity, why do you hate the word cis? Is just means "not trans." It's a word to distinguish non-trans people from trans people.
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
I hate it because trans people ave turned "cis" almost into an ugly slur.
I've heard people use it the same way you hear the words "nigger", "whore", or "faggot".
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Sebistara Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
Am i the only one in the whole world who thinks about star wars when the word cis is shown?!
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RomanJones Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Professional Digital Artist
Nah, I think cyst.
Seriously, I never thought that shit would catch on.
I mean, tens of thousands of years of being burned as abominations and the MOMENT people start talking about equal human rights for us we act like entitled screaming idiots.
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Sebistara Featured By Owner Aug 13, 2014  Hobbyist Digital Artist
I never ever heard about this cis-gender-Thing until /pol/, here in Germany no one gives a single fuck. :E We actually have some changes (i work on the city-statistic) on the new questionnaire for the Plebs...
Your Sex is:
a: male
b: female
c: other
At first i thought about eunuchs, since they are the third gender.
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